Public Speaking and Panic Attacks
It is often observed
that many people’s top ranking fear is not death but having to speak in public.
The joke is that these people would rather be lying in the casket at the
funeral than giving the eulogy. Public speaking for people who suffer from
panic attacks or general anxiety often becomes a major source of worry weeks or
even months before the speaking event is to occur.
These speaking
engagements do not necessarily have to be the traditional “on a podium” events
but can be as simple as an office meeting where the individual is expected to
express an opinion or give verbal feedback. The fear of public speaking and
panic attacks in this case centers on having an attack while speaking. The
individual fears being incapacitated by the anxiety and hence unable to
complete what he or she is saying. The person imagines fleeing the spotlight
and having to make all kinds of excuses later for their undignified departure
out the office window…
This differs slightly
from the majority of people who fear public speaking because their fear tends
to revolve around going blank while speaking or feeling uncomfortable under the
spotlight of their peers. The jitters or nerves of speaking in public are of
course a problem for this group as well, but they are unfamiliar with that
debilitating threat which is the panic attack, as they most likely have not
experienced one before.
So how should a person
with an anxiety issue tackle public speaking?
Stage one is accepting
that all these bizarre and quite frankly unnerving sensations are not going to
go away overnight. In fact, you are not even going to concern yourself with
getting rid of them for your next talk. When they arrive during a
speech/meeting, you are going to approach them in a new manner. What we need to
do is build your confidence back to where it used to be before any of these
sensations ever occurred. This time you will approach it in a unique,
empowering manner, allowing you to feel your confidence again. It is said that
most of the top speakers are riddled with anxiety before speaking, but they
somehow use this nervousness to enhance their speech. I am going to show you
exactly how to do this, although I know that right now if you suffer from
public speaking and panic attacks you may find it difficult to believe you can
ever overcome it.
My first point is this
and it is important. The average healthy person can experience an extreme array
of anxiety and very uncomfortable sensations while giving a speech and is in no
danger of ever losing control, or even appearing slightly anxious to the
audience. No matter how tough it gets, you will always finish your piece, even
if at the outset it feels very uncomfortable to go on. You will not become
incapacitated in any way.
The real breakthrough
for if you suffer from public speaking and panic attacks happens when you fully
believe that you are not in danger and that the sensations will pass.
“I realize you (the
anxiety) hold no threat over me.”
What keeps a panic
attack coming again and again is the fear of the fear—the fear that the next
one will really knock your socks off and you feel you were lucky to have made
it past the last one unscathed. As they were so unnerving and scary, it is your
confidence that has been damaged by previous anxiety episodes. Once you fully understand you
are not under any threat, then you can have a new response to the anxiety as it
arises while speaking.
There is always a
turning point when a person moves from general
anxiety into a panic
attack, and that happens with public speaking when you think to yourself:
“I won’t be able to
handle this in front of these people.”
That split second of
self-doubt leads to a rush of adrenaline, and the extreme anxiety arrives in a
wave like format. If, however, when you feel the initial anxiety and you react
with confidence that this is not a threat to you, you will move out of the
anxiety rapidly. Using this new approach is a powerful ally because it means it
is okay to feel scared and feel the anxiety when speaking–that is fine; you are
going to feel it and move with and through the sensations in your body and out
the other side. Because he or she is feeling very anxious, often before the
talk has begun, that person may feel they have already let themselves down.
Now, you can relax on that point. It is perfectly natural to feel the anxiety.
Take for example the worst of the sensations you have ever experienced in this
situation—be it general unease to loss of breath. You will have an initial
automatic reaction that says:
“Danger–I’m going to
have an episode of anxiety here and I really can’t afford that to happen.”
At this point most
people react to that idea and confirm it must be true because of all of the
unusual feelings they are experiencing. This is where your thinking can lead
you down a train of thought that creates a cycle of anxiety that produces a
negative impact on your overall presenting skills.
So let that initial “oh
dear, not now” thought pass by, and follow it up immediately with the attitude
of:
“There you are–I’ve been
wondering when you would arrive. I’ve been expecting you to show up—by the way,
I am not in the least threatened by any of the strange sensations you are
creating—I am completely safe here.”
The key to controlling
your fear of public speaking and panic attacks is that instead of pushing the
emotional energy and excitement down into your stomach, you are moving out
through it. Your body is in a slightly excited state, exactly as it should be
while giving a speech, so release that energy in your self-expression. Push it
out through your presentation not down into your stomach. You push it out by
expressing yourself more forcefully. In this way you turn the anxiety to your
advantage by using it to deliver a speech where you come across more alive,
energetic and in the present moment. When you notice the anxiety drop as it
does when you willingly move into it. Fire a quick thought off when you get a
momentary break (as I am sure you have between pieces), asking it for “more.”
You want more of its intense feelings as you are interested in them and are
absolutely not threatened by them.
It seems like a lot of
things to be thinking about while talking to a group of people, but it is not
really. You’d be amazed how many different non-related thoughts you can have
while speaking. This approach is about adopting a new attitude of confidence to
what you might have deemed a serious threat up until now. This tactic will
truly help you with fear of public speaking and panic attacks you have
associated with them.
If your predominant fear
of the speaking engagement is driven by a feeling of being trapped, then I
would suggest factoring in some mental releases that can be prepared before the
event. For example, some meetings/speeches allow for you to turn the attention
back to the room to get feedback etc. from the group.
If possible, you might
want to prepare such opportunities in your own mind before the engagements.
This is not to say you have to ever use them, but people in this situation
often remark that just having small opportunities where attention can be
diverted for the briefest of moments can make the task seem less daunting. It
my even be something as simple as having people introduce themselves or opening
the floor to questions. I realize these diversions are not always possible and
depend on the situation, but anything you can factor in that makes you feel
less trapped or under the spotlight is worth the effort and can help alleviate
fear of public speaking and panic attacks.
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Barry McDonagh is an international panic disorder coach. His informative site on all issues related to panic and anxiety attacks can be found here: http://www.panicportal.com
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